Most of my problems in life have come from poor self-management, from a lack of balance, and from desires out of control. Over the years, I have become somewhat healthier, mentally, physically, and spiritually, by keeping, as best I can, the following counsel:
*Detach from all outcomes, from having to have it a certain way. Relax and let God's will be done. completely surrender to God. Let go of any fear or worry. All will be well.
*Give up the demand for clarity, for everything to make sense, to meet your own criteria of what is acceptable or right. Be faithful to what you know and do good work anyway, even if you can't see the larger picture.
*Detach from judgment, evaluation, and criticism of others or yourself. If there is a problem, God will take care of it. Stop trying to manage the universe.
*Don't complain and don't explain. Trust God to work things out if they need to change. Self-defense is unnecessary and counter-productive.
*Let it be. Accept what is, without judgment. God knows and God will act as needed.
*Take time for silence, breathing, meditation, and prayer. Wait in the presence of the Lord.
*Do not use food and drink, television or the computer, to fill inner emptiness or restlessness. Be filled with the Spirit (just ask) and rest in the Lord.
*Look, listen, and experience in silence. Breathe. Walk.
*Align yourself with God's fierce determination to put all things right, and find you place in this great work, however small a place that might be.
*Be thankful, and, as God gives the grace, let God's love flow through you to all living things.